Justification is the Enemy of Boundaries
Boundaries only work if you use and honor them. Honestly the easy part of boundaries is deciding what they are. The challenging part of boundaries is following through with them.
If you aren’t careful, and haven’t set up a support system for your newly found boundaries you may get caught up in justifying why this time you aren’t going to follow that it’s “just’ this once so it’s okay.
This is the place of growth, when you find yourself in that moment of putting action behind the boundary. Typically when we are learning and growing a new skill the height of the learning is also the height of the feelings of challenge: this is the moment to be aware of the risk of justifying and not following through with the agreed boundary. Practice how your are going to respond when your boundary is challenge. This will help you have greater success when you’re challenged.
If the justification comes up repeatedly it may be beneficial and necessary to look at the boundary, it may require some shifting.
If you are ready to do something about it, but aren’t sure where or how to start, that’s my life coaching speciality! Breaking down the old patterns and habits and helping you create new patterns and habits to support you in where you’d like to go. You can visit Schedule Life Coaching with Marci.